FOR ARRANGED MARRIAGES & LOVE MARRIAGES
Marriage is an important milestone in an individual’s life. However, whether it is a traditional arranged marriage (Community is involved ) or a love marriage (where you have known your partner), a commitment brings together a very new environment in an individual’s life.
Just knowing somebody or living with them is different than being committed to them for Life and many years.
Just knowing somebody or living with them is different than being committed to them for Life and many years.
FOR ARRANGED MARRIAGES
If you are a parent, consider asking yourself these questions:
A Pre Marriage counseling session for your family your child would help them understand different facets of their personalities and their responses. This will help them in the new relationship to build trust and purpose and Balance Work and Life in this fast paced living today.
- Beyond degrees and college certifications and social meet ups, is your child comfortable with the person you are choosing for them with their one on one interactions? Have you had an open dialogue where your child has expressed?
- Has your child agreed to a proposal based on fantasy or feeling good of what others have said or after a mutual open decision with themselves after introspection and then discussion within the family?
- If your child is changing a location through the marriage have you ensured that her individual dreams and passion is not compromised due to the new relationship?
- How have you openly expressed your support to this growing new relationship? Is your child open to confide and discuss with you?
A Pre Marriage counseling session for your family your child would help them understand different facets of their personalities and their responses. This will help them in the new relationship to build trust and purpose and Balance Work and Life in this fast paced living today.
FOR LOVE MARRIAGES
If you are a Couple, consider yourself asking these questions:
Are you looking for something new in this relationship that you have never ever felt before?
Do you want to escape / avoid a current situation and therefore getting into the relationship?
Are you too busy and getting married because everybody does so?
What are your expectations with your partner? Have you worked out responses and next steps about the situation?
If in your courtship, you have fought, how did it change – by giving in or by discussion or by looking at the situation to understand the perspectives?
A Marriage that is a life long commitment is a beautiful, ongoing changing journey with more newer people each day. Build a strong foundation for your relationship to understand and respond sensitively to your partner in the following areas:
Remember the key is when one knows the details with clarity of one’s behavior, it is easy to accept, mould, change and grow together happily being a fulfilled couple that creates Healthy Families.
Are you looking for something new in this relationship that you have never ever felt before?
Do you want to escape / avoid a current situation and therefore getting into the relationship?
Are you too busy and getting married because everybody does so?
What are your expectations with your partner? Have you worked out responses and next steps about the situation?
If in your courtship, you have fought, how did it change – by giving in or by discussion or by looking at the situation to understand the perspectives?
A Marriage that is a life long commitment is a beautiful, ongoing changing journey with more newer people each day. Build a strong foundation for your relationship to understand and respond sensitively to your partner in the following areas:
- Varied responses in situations
- Individual responses to touch, sex and intimacy.
- Understanding ways of upbringing that would impact your child’s upbringing.
- Understanding the relationship of yourself & your partner with the opposite gender, money, spending pattern, responses to crisis, responses to intimacy and relationship with others within the family, parents.
- Understanding individual passions and how a couple can grow together fulfilling one’s interest and passion.
- Understanding your partner’s work – life style to make space for intimacy for yourself.
- Understanding your partner’s pattern of past relationships and subtle expectations in the intimate space and how it would impact you.
Remember the key is when one knows the details with clarity of one’s behavior, it is easy to accept, mould, change and grow together happily being a fulfilled couple that creates Healthy Families.